I'd give my everything for you, my love!

Would I?
Should I?

Im not sure, my Dear Void. I have been talking to someone with whom our ideas on that subject clash completely. His thoughs on it sound more or less like that: if you love someone, you have to do everything for them that makes them happy, even though it doesnt make you happy. So when you do everything according to that persons wishes, you prove your love.

No.
I simply cannot agree to this.
Call me selfish, call me whatever you please but the way I see things is rather different. When I love someone, I choose to give my all to him. I dont have to but I choose to. And I still have boundaries. There are things I would never do. Never ever no matter who you are.
I believe love is about making people happy and I mean both sides of the relationship. Not that one is holding back the tears doing something that causes them discomfort, pain or mental distress just for the sake of the others pleasure. How could I ever enjoy something when I know that pleasing me causes my dear loved one harm? Its impossible.

I have experienced giving my all to someone I love. I did it gladly, with a smile on my face. But sometimes I did it just to keep the peace or to avoid the argument and fights. I was the peacekeeper in that relationship. And it doesnt work, at least not for a longer time. In a relationship when one side always gives more, one thing inevitably happens. This person will be taken for granted. They will give more and more since its never enough and they receive less and less so in the end they are left with empty hands.
And I promised myself that I will never be like this. Never again will I agree with things that doesnt make me happy or what will hurt me.

And not to sound selfish, I'd like to explaine. There are 3 categories of things. One is the YES where are all the things that are acceptable for that person, second one is NO where are all the things that are absolutely not acceptable but this category is also non-debatable and should be respected by others no questions asked. And the third is MAYBE and that category can swing both ways. But in that one are the things that can be tried and then decided over.
So my Dear Void, what I wanted to say with this ranty talk is that I dont want to do thing that are an absolute no for me and I'd like this to be respected and I also would never push my loved ones to do the things they reallyreally dont want to.

Love is about respect and acceptance the way the people are. If you cannot accept me the way I am with all my boundaries, flaws and quarks, well, tough luck then. And this was really something I had to get off my chest.
Now Im off to bed, nightnight!